So, in a few days, my husband and I will be going on an anniversary getaway. I’m super excited, especially about sleeping in late and just uninterrupted sleep, period. Sleep, I’m getting some sleep…
Where was I? Well, the other day I was reading an article encouraging stay-at-home moms (and moms, period) to go on vacation by themselves. Apparently, it’s all the rage. Everyone does it and loves it!
So, I started thinking maybe I should go somewhere by myself too, have some quality “me” time. No, blogging doesn’t count. It’s narcissistic and “me” alright, but not exactly relaxing. I pitched the idea to my husband, and shockingly, he said Yes! He told me he would take care of the kids and all the household tasks (yeah, right).
It is interesting that no one ever suggests a guy goes on vacation by himself. What do you think of when you hear it? Affair!!
But for some reason, it’s totally acceptable for a gal to do it. Yes, I know what you are going to say. It’s a double standard, don’t knock it.
But here is the thing. I don’t like to do things without my husband. Yes, I know, this makes me sound very “fifties” and uncool. Amigos, I’m a SAHM, that ship has sailed a long time ago. The only time I vacationed without him was when my sister-in-law’s friend cancelled her cruise to Alaska and I ended up going instead. My husband just started a new job, we had no kids, so I went. It was fun, sure, but it just wasn’t the same without him. I’m so glad we’ll have a chance to do it together as a family next May.
I like sharing travel memories with my husband, and quite frankly, I still like him. And I think he likes me too, even after all these years. At least, that’s what he says. He certainly has no desire to vacation without me. Well, to be fair, he just doesn’t like to go anywhere, period. His favorite thing in the world is taking a nap in his own bed. I like to joke that he is an old men stuck in a semi-young men’s body.
But even though he gets grumpy on trips, I still want him around. I want “us,” not “me” time. Plus, I like to have an audience for my rants. Live audience, that is.
I know many have enjoyed doing these sort of trips, so I’m not here to knock other people’s experiences. There isn’t anything wrong with it, it’s just not for me. But I’m wondering, what am I missing? Have you done a solo trip, and how did it go? Please, share.
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Leana is the owner and founder of Miles For Family. She enjoys beach vacations and visiting her family in Europe. Originally from Belarus, Leana resides in central Florida with her husband and two children.