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Last month, my husband and I had the opportunity to travel to Hawaii by ourselves without our kids. We have only done that one time since we had kids, and that was 7 years ago. All of the stars aligned perfectly for this trip to happen for us, and I’m so glad we went.
When I wrote about plans for this trip on the blog earlier, I did get a few snarky comments from readers who disagree with excluding the kids from any trips. I understand that a kidless trip isn’t for everyone. However, this trip was such a special time for my husband and me, and I have no regrets.
Our flights were almost 8 hours long each way. Usually on our family flights, my husband and I don’t sit next to each other. We each take a row with the kids to minimize squabbles among them. We have to deal with fixing devices and answering numerous questions.
But on this last trip, I hardly knew what to do with myself on those flights. Watch a movie? Don’t mind if I do! Our time was our own.
On one of our free days, my husband and I decided to book an excursion. It was an 8-hour activity that may have been too much for our kids. In fact, the minimum age per the tour company was 14. Two of my kids wouldn’t have been able to go on it. The excursion was amazing!
Connection and Conversation
Traveling with just my husband allowed us to reconnect and actually have uninterrupted conversations. We returned home from the trip feeing rejuvenated and relaxed.
It’s worth mentioning that leaving the kids behind for this particular trip saved us a ton of money. The hotel we stayed at with my husband’s company was very expensive. Getting another room for the kids would have cost us a fortune. Not to mention the cost of the restaurants were crazy high. I have a few bucket-list trips that I’m saving for just the two of us based on the cost (European river cruise is one of those things).
Even though we loved this trip by ourselves, we won’t be traveling without the kids all the time. We don’t have easy childcare options right now. But if we did, I would consider doing a couples-only trip once a year.
This doesn’t meant we don’t love our kids or don’t love traveling with our kids. We have a few adventures planned with each kid one-on-one this fall. And, we have some grand adventures planned for the whole family next year as well.
However, I do think that one of the best things we can do for our kids is have a healthy marriage. Clearly, getting away by ourselves to recharge our batteries did us a world of good.
How often do you take adults-only getaways?
Nancy lives near Dallas, Texas, with her husband and three kids. Her favorite vacations include the beach, cruising and everything Disney.