First, let me say that I love sharing information about travel. Before we go on a trip, talking about it gets me excited. After a trip, it allows me to relive my vacation, and hopefully it inspires someone to take a trip. I’ll talk about travel to anyone who is willing to listen.
That said, over the years I’ve become used to hearing commentary from people both before and after I’ve returned from a trip. Good or bad, everyone has an opinion!
Let me also preface this by saying that I’m sure I’ve stuck my foot in my mouth on a lot of things or said something offensive without meaning to. But, sometimes vacation commentary from well-meaning people can become annoying when you hear the same thing over and over again.
So without further ado, here are some comments I’ve heard over the years:
I’ve heard this re-phrased so many ways, including like this from my own mother: “You know, there are lot of other places you can go on vacation besides Disney.”
I think what bothers me about this is that the same people who say this also go to the same place every year, just a different place. I know many families that go to the same beach house in Destin or the same resort in Las Vegas every year. It’s tradition! My family’s taste may be different from yours, but that’s ok!
The thing about our Disney trips is that each of them have been different. We change it up every single time. Different resort, different rides (due to ages and height growth), different itineraries on Disney Cruise Line. Don’t worry, if we get bored we’ll try something different. Disney, in its various forms, is just a good fit for my family right now.
Bottom line is, unless you’re paying for my trip, we’re going where we want. And it might be Disney, again.
“So you only went to the touristy places.”
When did it become so out of vogue to visit the touristy places at a destination? Many times, there’s a reason those places are so popular. They are iconic, unique, entertaining and/or convenient.
That said, sometimes the most touristy places are over-rated. Often, alternative off-the-beaten path places are less crowded, less expensive and just as nice (like Don Pedro Island, for example).
I do understand that a destination can be completely different when you leave the tourist area. You can learn more about a country’s language and culture by venturing farther out. However, I don’t want to avoid the tourist areas just to seem hip and cool. When I go to Paris, I’m going to the Eiffel Tower. Period.
One time, I asked on social media for restaurant recommendations in New York City for a special anniversary dinner. For every recommendation by someone, there was a counter-argument by someone else that the restaurant was too touristy. We ended up choosing a restaurant that was deemed too touristy by some, but it was the best Italian food we’ve ever tasted.
“That’s all you have planned?”
Maybe it’s because we have three kids, or maybe we would be the same without kids. My family’s style of traveling on vacation is planning just one major activity per day, and keeping the rest of the day’s schedule open. We may return to our hotel, or add something we hadn’t planned we found along the way. For each trip, we pick our top 3-4 priorities that we absolutely must see. If we see more, it’s a bonus.
To some people, that sounds wasteful and lazy. But for us, it helps us enjoy what we see and avoid exhaustion. My brother’s family, on the other hand, would be very bored with that kind of schedule. But, to each his own!
“If you can afford _____, then you can afford ______.”
Vacationing with the help of miles and points can be very deceiving to the unsuspecting outsider. If we use points to stay at a nice resort, or if miles afford us plane tickets multiple times a year, we appear to be wealthier than we actually are.
For example, while I was participating in a group discussion about holiday gift budgets, I made a comment about the budget we have for our kids’ presents. Someone who knew that I had been on a Disney Cruise said that if I could afford a Disney Cruise, then I should be able to afford an expensive electronic for my kid. Um, no, actually we used airline miles and hotel points to stay before the cruise. And, we worked hard to save by holding garage sales and eating at home instead of going out to eat.
This is a good opportunity to tell people that you don’t have to be wealthy to travel if you collect miles and points!
“What do you mean, you didn’t leave the resort?”
On a trip to Disney World a few years ago, we stayed in a condo at Wyndham Bonnet Creek. This was a long 9-day trip with extended family, and I was 5 months pregnant. During our time there, we spent two days just relaxing at the resort. Those days were some of the most fun days of our trip! Hanging back to relax in the pool and chill out on our balcony re-energized us so that we could survive the rest of our trip.
Last summer, we stayed three nights at Hyatt Regency Lost Pines without leaving the resort at all. We didn’t go driving around Austin, we just stayed put. And during our trip to Hawaii in 2015, we spent an entire day at Disney’s Aulani without leaving except to walk across the street to dinner. Gasp! Even in Hawaii. We had a glorious day. I have no regrets.
I know this is a foreign concept to some people who prefer to be on the go for vacations. It’s not everyone’s travel style, that’s for sure. And it’s not my family’s style for every day or for every trip. But sometimes, enjoying the hotel for a day is just plain awesome. You should try it! Or not.
What comments do you hear from others about your trips? Does anything bother you?
Nancy lives near Dallas, Texas, with her husband and three kids. Her favorite vacations include the beach, cruising and everything Disney.